Starting counselling can feel like a big step - and for many people, the idea comes with a mix of curiosity, hope and nerves. Unfortunately, it also comes with a lot of misinformation. Over the years, counselling has been portrayed in so many different ways that it's easy to pick up assumptions that just aren't true.
Whether you've thought about starting therapy or you're just exploring your options, this blog is here to gently clear up some of the common myths - and offer a more realistic, reassuring picture of what counselling is really like.
Myth 1: "Counselling is only for people with serious problems."
This is one of the most common misconceptions. While counselling can absolutely support people during a crisis, it's just as valuable for those dealing with everyday stress, feeling stuck, or simply wanting to explore personal growth.
You don't need to "hit rock bottom" to benefit. In fact, many people come to counselling to better understand themselves, strengthen relationships, or create space to think clearly in a busy world. Whatever you're carrying, you deserve support.
Myth 2: "I'll have to talk about things I'm not ready for."
This worry is completely understandable. Opening up to someone new - especially about personal or painful experiences - can feel daunting. But in counselling, you're in control.
A good counsellor will never push you to talk about something before you're ready. Sessions are led by your needs and comfort level, and building trust is part of the process. You can take your time, and speak when you feel safe to do so.
Myth 3: "Talking won't change anything."
Sometimes people think, "How can just talking really help?" But talking in a therapeutic space is very different from an everyday conversation. It's focused, non-judgemental, and confidential - a space just for you.
Often, the act of being truly heard and understood can bring relief, insight, and emotional release. Counselling helps you join the dots, notice what's beneath the surface, and feel less alone with whatever you're carrying.
Myth 4: "The counsellor will tell me what to do."
Counselling isn't about giving advice or offering quick fixes. It's about walking alongside you as you explore your own thoughts, feelings, and choices. You are the expert on your life - not your counsellor.
Instead of telling you what to do, counselling helps you make sense of what's going on inside, understand patterns, and feel more confident in your own decisions.
Myth 5: "If I start counselling, it means I've failed."
This myth is rooted in stigma - the outdated belief that needing help is a weakness. In reality, seeking support is a sign of strength. It takes courage to ask for help, to reflect, and to do the inner work that can lead to healing and growth.
Counselling isn't about fixing you - because you're not broken. It's about creating space for change, acceptance, and deeper self-understanding.
Final thoughts
If any of these myths have held you back, you're not alone. Many people feel uncertain or hesitant at first - and that's okay. Counselling is a personal journey, and it's important to feel safe, supported, and informed as you take your next step.
If you're curious about how counselling might help you - whether you're feeling overwhelmed, navigating a life change, or just needing someone to talk to - I'm here to offer a gentle, compassionate space.
Want to take the next step?
If you'd like to learn more about working together, or you're ready to book an initial free telephone call, I'd love to hear from you. You can contact me Ocean’s Breeze Counselling in Plymouth | Online Counsellor in Devon
Remember: reaching out is a brave and meaningful act of self-care. You don't have to do it all alone.
